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Cordi’s Feed & Seed – How to give the Perfect Massage

It sounds like a no-brainer, but massages are especially effective for aches like low-back pain. Researchers have found that massage works better than common treatments including chiropractic therapy and acupuncture.

It’s not clear why, but several studies show massage reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol, while boosting the feel-good hormones serotonin and dopamine.

Those changes slow your heart rate, reduce blood pressure, and block your nervous system’s pain receptors. Massage also increases blood flow to the muscles, which may help them heal.

Massage also seems to ease distress from migraine, labor pain, and even cancer, as well as the body tenderness seen with fibromyalgia.

Plus, the benefits may last as long as a year after just a few treatments.

Hello, dreams

Fluctuations in several types of brain waves either relax you or wake you up. Massage increases delta waves — those linked with deep sleep. That’s why it’s easy to drift off on the massage table.

Brain Power

A 15-minute massage boosts mental alertness. Tests show that brain-wave activity stimulated by massage is linked to improved attention.

Immune Booster

Massage helps ward off bugs by boosting your “natural killer cells,” the immune system’s first line of defense against invading illness. Cortisol destroys natural killer cells therefore, since massage decreases cortisol, your immune cells get a boost. Massage even seems to boost immunity in those people with severely compromised immune systems, such as breast-cancer patients.

Blues, be gone

Less cortisol and more serotonin and dopamine in your system may also mean less stress, anxiety, and depression. The right side of the frontal lobe of the brain is more active when we’re sad, and the left side is activated when we’re happy.

Studies have observed that massage decreases activity in the right lobe and increases functioning in the left. The well-being people feel after a massage is a big reason why some hospitals offer it to anxious patients pre­paring for surgery and cancer patients going through chemo.

PMS

A study involving women with severe PMS found that massage reduced symp­toms such as pain, water retention, and mood swings.

Cordi’s Tips on how to give the Perfect Massage

Set the Mood

The first step to a truly relaxing and sensual massage is setting the mood. Unplug the phone, turn off the tv and the computer. Light some candles, burn some incense and play some relaxing, sensual music. My personal favorite is “Air on the G String” by Bach.

Make sure the room is warm and your partner is completely naked. You want your lover to chill out, not freeze.

Accessories

Set up a massage workspace by covering your mattress with towels — so the massage oil doesn’t ruin your sheets.

Massage oil is the only required accessory. You can use scented or unscented, or even baby oil in a pinch. Rub your hands together to warm them and the oil up before touching your partner’s bare skin.

To easily make your own massage oil, just add between 10-20 drops of your favorite essential oil to about a cup of olive oil.

TIP: If you plan to get busy with a condom later, buy a water-based massage liquid — oil can destroy latex.

The Basics

The most sensitive body parts are: head and neck, ears, sides of the body from armpits to hips, inner thighs, fingers and toes, and, of course, genitals. Keep this handy list in mind as you provide some sensual R&R.

Here’s the rub

Practice these basic massage strokes on your partner and ask for feedback on which he enjoys most.

  • Slide: Lightly slide your hands up and down your partner’s body using your entire hand surface. This stroke is great for the arms, legs, back, and chest.
  • Palm circling: Move your hands in circles on your partner’s fleshy parts. Be careful not to massage bones directly — it doesn’t feel very good.
  • Knead: Grasp your honey’s flesh as if you were kneading bread dough. Use on the stomach, legs, tush, arms, hands, and feet.
  • Roll: Roll the flesh of your sweetie’s arms and legs between your hands as if you were rolling clay.
  • Tapping or hacking: Using your fingertips or the sides of your hands, make tapping or hacking motions. This is great for the back.
  • Thumb strokes: Using your thumbs, massage in a circular motion. Work upward and away from the spine when focusing on the back and shoulders.
  • Fingertip and fingernail circling: Use your fingertips or nails to draw circular shapes all over your partner’s skin.
  • Hair sweep: If you have long hair, sweep it across your partner’s body.
  • Sweep down: when doing any move in a massage, it is important to remember to always start and finish with a sweep down. Apply light pressure to the area and move your hands down away from the body part being massaged. This is ancient technique and believed to push the bad energy out of the body and into the ground, instead of spreading it through the body.

Now give the perfect massage

1. Laying on of hands. With your guy lying on his stomach, buck-naked, warm your hands by rubbing them together and place them on your partner — one hand on the upper back, one hand on the lower. Leave your hands there for a long moment; this starts your lover on the path to relaxation.

2. Spread the oil. Make sure you’ve warmed it in your hands first, and start with a very small amount.

3. Start rubbing. Rub your hands up and down your sweetie’s whole backside. Accentuate the different strokes described above that your lover enjoys the most, until you feel relaxation set in. The back and the tush are excellent places to use the tapping/hacking technique. These are both excellent for breaking up stress.

4. Legs. Continue onto the legs. Be sure to cover both front and back sides with sensual strokes. I recommend using a kneading motion on the inner thighs, the thumb motion on the back of the knees and then knead again on the calves.

5. Arms and hands. Pay special attention to the hands. Use your thumbs to massage the heels of your lover’s hands. Lock your fingers with his and rotate his wrists gently.

6. Feet. There’s a whole school of massage — reflexology — devoted solely to the feet. Taking care of the feet is very important and one of the area’s that I always try to focus special attention on. Be sure to massage each toe and the area between them. Massage the top, sides, backs and the bottom of the feet. Our feet carry the weight of our bodies, so treat them right. It isn’t uncommon for me to spend 15 minutes on each foot.

7. Front torso. Take care massaging the abdomen. Press deeply, but not so much that it hurts. Ask if what you’re doing feels good. The abdomen and the chest are the perfect places to use the hair sweep if you have long hair.

8. Chest. Knead the fleshy parts, and use your fingertips to massage the nipples. Imagine that your fingers are following the spokes on a bicycle wheel, and let them radiate from the center of the nipple to its edge. Remember to use a light touch!

9. Neck and head. Anyone who’s gotten a scalp massage knows how it makes you tingle all over. Use your fingertips and nails to really dig in there…gently! Use fingers to run through the hair, with fingertips lightly gliding across the scalp.

10. Ears and Temples. Using thumb strokes, apply gentle pressure behind the ears and then gently massage the ear lobes with your thumb and forefinger. Run your fingers slowly up the side of the head in a circular motion to reach the temples and lightly massage with your thumbs in clockwise motion.

10. Genitals. If you’re going erotic, go all the way. Chances are you’ll get a thankful response no matter what you do.




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